could someone please stop me

[LeAnn]

One of my favorite horses is up for sale. I do not need another horse. I have 2 wonderful horses already and several other mouths to feed. I have no place to keep another horse but i want her so bad. I cant stop thinking about her.
Somebody knock some sense into me and there is just no way i can afford another horse.

[Pasogirlz]

*twists your arm :twisted:
Ummm Yeah....you come to the right place for help. :twisted:

[LeAnn]

I of course had to email and find out why she is up for sale. I had my heart set on someday owning a buckskin but these darn gray horses keep drawing me to them.

[CarolU]

No sympathy here...I have a barn built for 7 horses, have 8 horses and one on the way! LOL

Electric fence is cheap and a quick way to divide pastures and make room for new horses.

You really CAN'T turn you back on her. What if someone mean buys her?

[Pasogirlz]

Perhaps you would have better off asking for suggestions on how to talk yourself/signif. other into taking on an extra one. ;-)

[appyday]

Can you post a pic..that way it might be easier for us to help you...

[KAB]

So why is she for sale?Let us know when you find out.I have a barn built for 6 and have 7 so I can't be of any help either. I can only say .....3 is a perfect number.

[Terri]

You gotta be kidding. This is like a drunk walking into a bar asking the other drinkers to sober him up.
My husband calls my barn "the projects" for horses. Before I bought Mico it was a TWO stall barn. There are now 5 horses cramed in there. And I think it maybe possible to move a wall and get one more small stall.
Go for it girl! When will another chance like this happen?

[LynnG]

The countepoint view........

you told yourself why NOT:

1. I do not need another horse.
2. I have 2 wonderful horses already.
3. I have several other mouths to feed.
4. I have no place to keep another horse.
5. There is just no way i can afford another horse.

Aren't any ONE of the above good enough reasons by themselves. You wanted someone to give you a reality check..you said it yourself.

So now come up with a list of Why YES and compare the two lists on which makes sense. This should then be a guiding point for you. Be careful ... of having too many horses as per your reasons above and then as you see many horses listed for sale because the owner has too many!
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[Abejita]

do you have any good horse friends who actually WANT another horse that you can talk into looking at her?or buying her?

[appyday]

The countepoint view........

you told yourself why NOT:

1. I do not need another horse.
2. I have 2 wonderful horses already.
3. I have several other mouths to feed.
4. I have no place to keep another horse.
5. There is just no way i can afford another horse.

Aren't any ONE of the above good enough reasons by themselves. You wanted someone to give you a reality check..you said it yourself.

So now come up with a list of Why YES and compare the two lists on which makes sense. This should then be a guiding point for you. Be careful ... of having too many horses as per your reasons above and then as you see many horses listed for sale because the owner has too many!
:question


Yep she is going to buy it....lol

[Pasogirlz]

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[LeAnn]

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Here she is.
I dont know if i will get her. I truely have no need for another but sure would love to have her.

[LeAnn]

There is only one reason to buy her. I love her. No other reason what so ever.

[Terri]

Oh she is beautiful!, I've always wanted a grey (and a palomino and a buckskin and a pinto and a....)

[Moniece Dickerson]

Gosh well is she your favorite mare ever?Think of all the money that goes out already not to mention time taking care of the ones you have now.Money and time is what keeps me from bringing home a new one every time.They had the cutest baby rabbits at the farm store the other day but I bit the bullet and kept walking.But if she is your favorite mare ever and you can aford to care for her without the ones you already have suffering or going without because you got her GO FOR IT!!!Your friend,Moniece

[CarolU]

I like Lynn's list...but would do it a little differently:

1) Can I afford another horse?
2) Can I make space for another horse?
3) Will I get divorced if I get another horse?
4) And she turns out to be pregnant??? :shock:

ooops

[LeAnn]

See thats part of the problem i have no one to argue with about this. Im free to buy what ever i want except of course money kind of need that and i would have to find somewhere else to keep her I got friends that would let her live at their place but then that means driving farther then i already do to see my other horses. Just things i guess i need to think about before i do anything except wish and dream.

[Minouri]

LeAnn,

So when do we get to see a picture of her in your backyard? :bsmile

[Fuego]

Is this mare so special that you'd be willing to sell off one of the horses that you already have?

I've turned down several offers for free horses in the past few years. And I'm not talking scrubs either. One offer was for two 3 & 4 yr old reg. Arabians. Well bred and already successful in confirmation classes with ideal dispositions. The owner simply wanted a home where she knew they'd be well cared for. Money wasn't an issue for the owner.

But due to my financial instability and constantly relocating, I felt it would have been very irresponsible to accept any of these horses knowing at any given moment I wouldn't be able to provide the minimum care financially for the horses ( God forbid vet bills) and simply have to 'unload' these horses by any means neccessary. I put the horse's welfare before my addiction .....

But I'll also say, that very generous and supportive friends have enabled me to hold on to my one irreplacable Paso through a couple of tough spots over the past few years, when the responsible thing would have been to not have a horse.
One friend even kept Chino for me free of charge for many months during a 'transition' phase in my life. I would have lost him then if not for great friends.

Having shared my perspective, my money is on that mare will soon be calling LeAnn 'mom'.... :D

[GeorgeGuns]

Hmmmmmm heck of a dilemma.
I tried having three horses on my own many moons ago. Even with them all at the same place, it just didn't work. Actually I tried it twice. Didn't work either time. Funny thing is, the one that made it number three is still here 17 years later, and the one that made number three the second time, well she'd still be here but God needed her more. But shoot, should I talk now? I have 12 horses and my barn is built for... 3-4. And most folks on here know what he** I have put myself through - the horses didn't go hungry but I sure did, and its no fun. One extra horse or six, it can really mess with yer head.
Its a hard call when we feel this pull for a horse. Have you ridden her before? Does she return the sentiment? Is there a real bond there or is it really one sided (yours)? Answering these questions can tell you the difference between real love with a horse and infatuation. Infatuation can be a very strong emotion, and very persuasive.
These other two that you have, are you willing to let one go either to sell or to lease to make "room" for this one? What is the potential that you will spend eons comparing them to her whether you get her or not? IOW can you still be fair to the ones you have? Not just with meeting their physical needs, but in your own emotional balance.

Being in the work I'm in now, I meet about one horse a week that I feel like I could bond for life with, lol. It doesn't help that one is a very pretty young filly at a rescue. Before this, it was horses at the vet hospital - that was rough esp since some of the good byes were quite permanent. We get past it.

Ahhhh, then there is Bri. I fell in love with him from that pic that I am always posting. Why? Just because he's a black roan, and the look in his eyes was..... *no words*. Just because. Could I have lived on without getting him? Oh sure, ignorance is bliss, ya know? BUT I did get him, and I'll never regret it. We have had an incredible roller coaster together, and its not over. Would another owner done as well by him? Maybe someone would have done better by him. Maybe some of the crap that has happened he would have not had to go through with someone else. But maybe he wouldn't have anyone blowing him kisses and laughing at his antics... And maybe I would not have learned some very important things about myself.

Point is, when you feel a pull like this, examine it. You may be in for something a lot more intense than you expect, or want.

[LeAnn]

My gelding has been for sale since i bought him 3 yrs ago he still here someday he will find that special someone who will enjoy him for many many yrs. My other horse well i was there when she was born could i sell her maybe but it would take alot of money to get her away from me.

I havent heard anything back about her yet.

[cowboy ed]

leann, come a little closer........WHACK! WHACK! WHACK! there, i just knocked some sense into you. you cant have them all! stop it! :lol:

[Pam M]

I side with Cowboy Ed on this one - not enough people side with him :lol:

If you're saying you can't afford her, THINKING you can't afford her, then you can't afford her. The toughest decision I ever made was selling my mustang because I couldn't afford him. I bought him back 10 years later and he'll be with me for life now (because I've got him covered in my will!) but I can't truly regret letting him go for that time because we would have both starved! Luckily he was an easy keeper or he'd have hit hard times sooner. It taught me a lesson.

Even though I have plenty of property and an 8 stall barn, I only own 3 horses and lease one. I have every intention of buying the one I lease but I have a tough time committing as long as I have my old guy because he might need some costly care one day soon. I'm now VERY well aware of the financial aspect because I plan to keep all of mine for life. Selling one when times get tough is only a last resort. Besides, no one would want one of mine - they're all rotten!

If I had an unlimited bank account, I'd have hundreds. There wouldn't be a horse left in an auction or a dog left in a pound. But I have to trust that someone else will come along to do the saving because I can only save so many. And I know my limits.

Speaking of which...I have 6 stray cats (all spayed/neutered). Somebody please take one/some!!!! I don't even really like cats!

Back to the subject...I know this is long but it's a tender subject with me...I've had to help bail neighbors out and I've seen some horses get in nasty conditions because their people were irresponsible about their needs. I had 2 here for several months that were skin and bones when they got here. Their owner meant well but by the time she admitted she couldn't care for them they were in too bad a shape to sell. I fattened them up and essentially forced her, with the help of another friend and threats to call the authorities, to let them go. We're not friends anymore but at least the horses are safe now.

Moral is...if for ANY reason you think it's not right to get another horse, don't do it. Accidents happen to horses and if money is already tight, you're asking for trouble. I've had a couple of thousand in vet bills over the past year - all unexpected except for the annual stuff. Think long and hard about it.

[Minouri]

Cowboy Ed, I burst out laughing over my cereal this morning as I read your post. :rofl

People need someone like you in a crowd. You can come horse shopping with me anytime.

[Terri]

Oh, yeah Cowboy Ed should talk. Aren't you the one with 21 horses or something. or am I thinking of someone else?

[appyday]

Oh, yeah Cowboy Ed should talk. Aren't you the one with 21 horses or something. or am I thinking of someone else?


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[jodiTowne]

SO....ARE YA BUYING HER????????????????????????????????

[LynnG]

Sounds like you need to make a more concerted effort to sell your gelding first or offer a trade. Don't take on more then you can handle financially or care-wise.

[LeAnn]

Well I dont think so would love to but my heart isnt going to win out i dont think. With hay being in short supply it just doesnt seem smart to get another horse. If she is still for sale in couple of months i might check in to her again.

[Beth Worden]

Bravo for you!!!! I like to hear someone thinking things through, once in awhile.

[Jane Hurl]

Bets, anyone? My money says she winds up with the grey mare! *wicked evil grin*

[LynnG]

Well I have one or two mares I'd like to seriously explore further, but not going to until I get my two young'n coming 4 year old geldings trained under saddle and sold this spring/early summer.