Who are we to judge ?

[Monty]

Suprise - never in a 1000 yrs we would have thought what happened today would. Hubby came home and told me as of check after next ,his pay will be cut in half ! Have medical for the moment - but will we be able to afford to pay for things past co-pay ?
Called daughter, and let her know - she is finally going to pay for the feed for the horses ! Long story - won't go there . Daddy's girl
We have enough hay to summer - so we are set there - You know how kids can be ;) She sort of let it slide. Ahem!
Paying for her share of the hay and feed for her 4 that are here - :( Dad wouldn't push it) .She will now be paying for our 2 also .
If things don't work out we may have to rehome ours -- time will tell.
Problem is - hubby's age - though he has expertise that is within the current green eco mode .With patents for things - or at least shared ones.
We will see what happens ---------- we had been thru really rough times before and managed .
Ohhhhhhhh how life can be so sweet and then kick you in the teeth !
SIL is going to see if Hubby can work with him ! That would be a kick - bet the machining jobs would get done in half the time ! LOL SIL does "inplace" machining all over the world - working on a power plant right now in Dominican Republic until Dec 22nd and will have to go back!
YA never know -------------

[Red Ryder]

So sorry, Penny

Keep faith in God he will pull you through, tithe your 10% even though you don't see how, and He will see you always have enough.

Been in Your position with "0" income and at my lowest point I said "God you take over and lead me"
He did and we've be debt free for almsot 3 years.

God Bless.

[SandyMM]

Wow...... you're right... stuff happens when you least expect it, but maybe the same will be true for something unexpectedly good, too....

[Carol Nelson]

Wow, Penny, I am so sorry. But remember, when one door closes, another opens. It's always been that way for me, dear. I'll say a prayer for you all.

[pnalley]

Penny,
I feel your pain & your fear. Tough times for sure. You'll come through this tough time I'm sure.

[squeaks]

Sorry to hear of your problems Penny, but I always remember something a very important man told me when I was in the hospital for 4 years straight. He said, "This Too Shall Pass" but I could never believe that, but he was right it did pass and I found a new job and which led me to Florida and I have never looked back and now have a farm and Paso Fino horses, a wonderful wife, plenty of pets to keep me occupied and even have my own newspaper now.

Was it easy getting to where I am now, "Absolutely Not" but I feel God led me to Florida and gave me all that I have now. Have faith things will pass or change for you and your family. If we can help with hay or horse feed let me know who to contact in your area.
Merry Christmas &
A Better New Year
:D:D Bob & Grace

[Monty]

That was bad enough - but,got a call last night - from Sister's Partner of 32 yrs that she was cold ! Asked if he had called 911 and had to order him to do that !
He is a total selfish idjit ! LONG story!
She had passed away in her sleep from cancer -
Because Mom left a decent CD that we split - I was holding hers in my name since she was on SSI - I think she knew I would be paying for a funeral - actually 2 internments - I will be having Mom and Patti buried in the remaining family plot. Both were cremations . Mom demanded NO funeral - and had left her body to the Medical College - they sent her ashes back.
Patti's cancer was found in April and was told in June - Dr's didn't expect her to live thru May -
She had been doing super, and then went down hill the last two weeks. I had been calling the past 3 days - she had fallen and complained about pulling a muscle - but wasn't that coherent - I thought it was due to the pain killers - I think it had gone to her brain.
I got information from PD ,when I called and explained I was out of town ,and from Medical Examiner ,she said she had talked to Dr Habe,r and Patti did have advanced stage - so it didn't really suprise me - I had talked to Dr's and personnel all along.
I think both were shocked I wasn't blubbering - but it was expected for me,from talking to the Dr's over the time.
Ted was NO help :( ! Didn't answer the phone on call back !
Her "partner" is more worried about paying any bills she had, than what is going on! Once we clear out her stuff from the apartment - I WILL be giving him a dressing down!!!!!!!!!!!!! And be done with him LOL
This should be on General chat -
But, we can never judge other people and what they are dealing with at any time .
I am her only remaining full blood relative - so it falls to me .
But , life goes on, and we will handle it . Nothing else we can do .
Everyone should really think about pre-planning a funeral - sorry but , you never know ! And it IS easier on the family in the long run.
Penny

[DSDECKERT]

Penny - I'm sorry for your loss - hugs

Prepaid funerals and having your arrangements are a huge blessing to the family. When Dad passed, he had everything paid and picked out, so it took a huge stress from Mom, sister and me. I think I'll go down and sign up and prepay mine.

[paintedhorizon]

Penny, I am so terribly sorry to hear of everything you are going through. I sure hope you are able to start moving back up again in life!

[PNYGRL]

I am so sorry to hear about all you are going through. I will pray for you and your family.

[lisa l aka marci]

Very sorry to hear about your sister....sounds like she went peacefully, which is a blessing. As for jobs - some things happen for a reason....before you know it something bigger and better will come along!

<<HUGS>>.....

[Terri]

OH Penny, words escape me, I am so, so sorry to hear you are going through such burdens now. I will pray that God holds you in the palm of his hand during these times.

[Monty]

Heard and older song from Sugarland I always liked ! LOL Basically - see if I can give the gist of it ;) SHhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ----------------it happens - while we are trying to figure out why !
Had good news - She was under Title 19 - the County/State will pay $1500 for cremation and the cemetary will get another $1000 SO , I had a huge break there ! Found out my one cousin I rarely talk to ;-) There are reasons LOL He is now the General Manager of a large local cemetary - he was the one that tipped me off to the $1000! He use to be a teacher/swimming coach.
I could have just skipped the service - but, it was a reasonable cost - and she had a ton of friends .It will be short - but at least a time people can gather.
Mom always said " This too shall pass" and I sort of think that way too .
LOL Actually the part I dread is clearing out her apartment - she was sort of a hoarder and clothes horse ! And TOO small for me or Amy ( my daughter) to wear !
We have to have it out by the end of the month ----------- we had "planned" on using Amy's 3 slant with LQ to haul everything away - but no place to park it :( Figured we could store everything in there and sort thru it more in there ! LOL
Oh Well - we will muddle through!

[Valrory]

So sorry for your loss. It will get better. Your sister is now in good hands now - the best place for her!

You're in my prayers.

[CarolU]

Oh Penny, I'm so sorry to read of troubles. To loose a sister on top of everything else seems like too much for anyone. Hugs to you while you bear through this. Have strength that the sun will shine again.