Have you ever....??

[Tami Pinell]

Have you ever just felt like a huge pile of poopy when there are things that happen in life that you can do nothing about - no matter how hard you try.
Well, I guess this question has just a tad bit of explaining....
I'm just really bummed out cause I have a dear pet that is not doing so well, one that has been with me since he was a 2 year old, we've had a lot of great times together and we have had some really tough times.... for years he has battled cancer - has had all the latest and best treatments.... and now it just seems that there is no winning. He seems to be in really good spirits and his health is really good at the moment but the news is that this will not last for long.... I guess when you "know" the outcome, it should make one feel better... but it does not make me feel any better to know that from the first diagnosis to now I have given him 4 of the 5 extra years they said he would have if he was treated...... I worked with this in Houston so the knowledge is there - but that does not make me feel any better.
For lack of better words... I just feel BAD.

[reuben T]

life on old planet earth is like that at times, can't escape the hard times. I'm convinced however that the redemption of the earth will include our animal friends. one of those happy surprises in store for the overcomers.

[Pasogirlz]

Sorry about your beloved pet Tami. I know how had things like this can be. :hug

[SQUEAKS]

Tami

Be thankful for the years you have been fortunate to expierence the companionship.

I have been there , done that and it hurts. I cried for a long time when Punkin had to be put down because of brain seizures but I can never forget how much fun we had together. Nor will I ever forget this was a 10 pound dog that saved my life.

Do what has to be done without regrets and know you acted in the best interest of all. Remember the good times and forget the bad. You know in your own heart you did what you could but sometimes it is time to say goodbye and go on. :D

Bob

[Brigitte]

I'm sorry Tami :(

[Moniece Dickerson]

Oh sweetie i'm so sorry!We knew our Thor was going to have to leave us too but knowing sure didn't help our hearts either :( .I am so SO sorry you are having to go through this heartache! :hug ,your friend,Moniece

[Heidi]

I'm sorry, too. Nothing we say can make you feel better about the impending loss.

When I pass animals hit in the road I always mutter "I'm sorry, critter" if it was a wild animal or "I'd have loved you" if it was a domestic animal. Respect for their bodies is what I strive for as I'm driving.
Reading your short story about your pet, I will mutter an "I care, too" just for you.
Heidi

[hast]

I'm so sorry. I know how hard it can be.

[Monty]

So sorry to hear that Tami -
You didn't say what kind of pet - cat? Dog?
Our pets trust us to help them and take care of them, and you have done all you could -
Sometimes we have to let go and it hurts . But, we understand pain and know we can't let them suffer by keeping them alive for our own selfish emotional needs.
I have had to put some dear pets down - and I still miss several - but we did what we could and let them cross the rainbow bridge - no more pain and rest. I think of them is a sunny warm place with lots of their favorite foods and freedom . (that may seem silly - but it makes me feel better )
:hug

[Carol Nelson]

Oh Tami, I'm so sorry. With four geriatric critters here myself (not counting my senior chickens!) I know my time is coming. I just keep praying I have the strength for that day.

[Minouri]

Tami,

Everyone who has ever had and loved an animal has been in the place you are now. It's not easy. We are given them for such a short time and they become such a part of our lives.

Hang in there. We're here for you if you need to let it out. Sometimes just saying it makes you feel better.

[jodiTowne]

I agree--Even if we know we've done our best it still hurts. I'm so sorry. We will all be thinking of you!!

[Terri]

Tami I a right with you on this one. I am looking at my 16 year old 1/2 collie. Rescued her 7 years ago when they were going to put her to sleep then. She has been a good dog! But the last couple of weeks have been rapidly down hill. She has lost lots of weight and can barely walk and usually falls when she comes in the house and lately has been peeing on the rug. I called the vet yesterday to set up apppointments for Spring shots and figured I would have her put down when he comes out. He hasn't called back yet. But I don't think I can wait that long, she is clearly uncomfortable and will probably die on her own in the next couple of weeks. But it breaks my heart and I can't watch her any more. She has had a good life but I am still sad. :cry: But I think Rueben is right, our beloved pets will be waiting for us when it is "our turn to say goodbye" Love never dies.

[Linda Y]

Tami, I am so sorry. Just like everyone said, there is nothing we really can say that will make you feel better. Just remember the great times you had together. And also remember to leave your heart open for the next soul that wants to come in. And there WILL be one.

[Mellifluous]

The best thing to do is make the best of the time you have left. Enjoy those special moments and savor the good times. Give yourself a big hug for doing your very best for your special companion...many people would not go that extra mile.

*great big giant hug*

[GeorgeGuns]

Waiting for the inevitable stinks. Wondering how you will know when "its time", wondering if you should wait or not, wondering if you are doing something wrong - no matter what you do! So very frustrating! Our pets are ony with us for a short time in the scheme of things, each day is precious.

I have a 19 year old cat that has now spent over half his life as a tripod, 1/4 his life deaf as a stone (that's a shame too cuz he really loved Irish flute). He goes through cycles of wheezing and then he's fine. Weight goes up and down. He's got 3 teeth. But he still loves his snuggly wugglies and still insistes that his water bowl be IN the sink (don't ask, he's weird). He's darned near impossible to treat for anything so I promised him he can live as long as he wants to and I'll honor his independance until its time for one last trip to the vets. I will hate that day, I've had him since he was 8 weeks old!

[baileyholc]

Tami you have done the best you can do. And I am sorry you have to go through this. Just take the time you need to make him as confortable as you can. Show him as much love and support as you can and let him know it is ok. Pets are very understanding when they are loved and cared for. He is just waiting on you. I'm sending big hugs. :cry: