Need Support-Prayers... VENT

[PASOFAN]

Well this has been a VERY HARD week...

Trucks Transmission went out. Had to get a rental $22 aday, mechanic didnt return calls for 4days, couldnt reach him to find out what was going on w/my truck. Finally did, he was jackin me around with excuses of he still doesnt know after 4days at his place what is wrong, I called a tow truck had it towed to a different mechanic my dad recomended. GREAT move, he was wonderful. I will have my truck back tonight. HOWEVER

The bill is $2469, why you ask? Well not only the trani went out, the cluth was damaged when the Pilot bearing went bad, also ruined the Input shaft and cause things to EXPLODE! I just pd this truck off!! this isnt coo.l..

So here I sit w/just spending this month alone BEFORE my truck broke:

$1k to fix sisters car, her christmas present
$1k on christmas presants for family
$345 on a new saddle for me


One side of my family has disowned little sis and I because of the guardianship I won in august.. Just found out my 85yr old grandparents were in a head on collision a MONTH ago.. Crap family I have, didnt even call to tell me they were in the hopsital.. But they are ok and home now I heard. They wont return letters or calls. All I can do is pray..

Also today I have to meet w/the Director Of HR about MY boss. VERY stressfull guys! My boss hasnt been a boss for 1yr and the office is literally falling apart. I am the assistant manager and have to get help and the big big boss of HR and I are meeting...

On a good note aleased my little sis and I are getting along ok since she moved in. We did have some issues but they are better...

But this whole truck and $$ thing has hit me HARD, thank god for the Credit Card, but I HATE doing it..

Just needed to vent to my BB friends, I know you will send prayers my way...

[PattiB]

Don't you hate when you finally pay it off and it falls apart! I think they have a computer chip that they flip the switch on after you pay it off. Hope things get better for you.

[TrueStepPaso]

PASOFAN....I'm so sorry to hear about these stresses that have come upon you at Christmas time....I understand...

I, too, have to come up with around $1300 for my truck...on top of x-mas presents....it couldn't have come at a worse time... :-?

[Carol Nelson]

Oh, Pasofan...you are such a good, good person...keep the faith, girl...He will provide...He always does. I suspect you are gonna be made boss instead of your current one...maybe THAT is what this meeting is all about...maybe even with a PAY RAISE???? ;-)
Am so sorry about your grandparents, and the rift in your family, but you did the right thing by your sister, and you know that!
Will say a prayer for you and send energy your way! Keep us posted, I for one am interested in what that meeting is all about! :D
Just want to add that you are one of the strongest, most incredible young women I have ever known! :smile:

[motorgypsy]

Good vibes are on their way!!!! HMMMMMMMMM HMMMMMMMM HMMMMMMM

Don't you feel better already!!! Hope things improve very soon!!

[CarolU]

Yeah PasoFan...take heart. I think bad luck runs in phases, and yours sounds about run through. Lots of GOOD things will happen now.

Remember hubby wrecked my van? Don't have the estimate yet, but we have $1K deductable on it, and I'm sure it'll exceed that (ripped the front bumper off). We just got the Camry out of the shop with a new cataletic converter - $350 part and $280 labor. Either way, BOTH bills are cheaper then car payments.

It's never a good time for this kind of stuff. My fortune cookie said my luck would improve in the spring. :roll: Gosh, I'm not sure I can wait THAT long!

Hang in there!

[Pasofinoguy]

That does sound really bad. I had just got my new place and no money and alot less stuff lol. Then my truck broke down and it was 4k to fix it. Ouch.

[DebbieS]

Sorry all these bad things happened at once - they're supposed to make us stronger people. Things will get better.

Good luck with your meeting!!

[PasoPerson38]

I am sending prayers that you will find way out of your money troubles...that you and your sister become closer with each passing day...and that your family realizes that FAMILY must stick together not matter what the situation.

And as well put by Carol:
"He will provide...He always does"
I have to add an....AMEN!!!!

[Sharon B]

I am so sorry about your money problems and family problems. Here is a big HUG coming your way. Hang in there this to will pass. Continue to pray things have got to look up for you.
Sharon

[PASOFAN]

Thanks all, yes I feel better, you guys always make me feel better because I know you care...

Was supposed to have the truck back yesterday BUT they sent my mechanic the WRONG trani so monday. Now I still have to pay for this rental and that really really sucks.... But hey, maybe God wanted my truck to break this week so I would avoide something else terrible... right.

CarolU- definatly AMEN, I too believe that even though it is hard to comprehend what the Father can do, I know I am gonna make it.

The meeting was to inform the HR boss of all the BAD BAD Things going on in our branch by my current manager. Monday I have to send ALL my employees for 20mins to HR one at a time to answer a routeen forum of q's. Confidential but VERY nessary, this is the wya it works when there is a problem w/a manager. NO I dont want her job at all. I love mine, however I would train in a new boss, just dont feel I can do it nor want to because I would loose my favorite job dutie- Loans. I just hope things dont get ugly and they can get my current boss's priorities straight. I really like my boss as a person she just isnt managing the office at all, it is all personal life for her in the past yr... I just feel bad being the assistant I couldnt fix this for our employees and that we needed to involve HR...

But what ever comes shall come...

Thank you all, it is a hard time of yr and to know I have friends on this BB means alot..

I am thankful.

[motorgypsy]

I keep telling myself that the alternative to having problems isn't really something I want quite yet! 90,000 miles checkup on the truck set us back $1000. New timing belt etc. We'll put a big bow on the truck and put it under the tree!!!

[Moniece Dickerson]

Oh sweetie i'm so sorry everything is coming down on you all at once!It always happens that way and I hate that.For me I have found that when I am truely at ropes end if i'll tell God that I can not do this I need you to take over.It's hard to admitt when things are beyond what you can handle but when the immediate relief comes after giving it over you wonder why you didn't ask for help before.I have only done this twice in my life.Last night at work was one of them.I was having a HORRIBLE time with the spot I was asigned on the line.I'd been FAR behind all night,just struggling terribly.To my self ofcourse I told God I know you would not give me a good job to watch me fail but I can not do this,I have given it my very best but I can't so it's in your hands,I need you to do it for me.RIGHT AWAY and I do mean right away I was all the way back up the line where I should have been all along!!!!Thankful isn't a strong enough word for how I felt and still feel.As long and hard as I have fought to get in with a good company here and as good of a job as it is I was literally about two seconds from hanging up my hat and walking out.Plant your feet firm and do everything you can do and when you truely can do no more completely give over control of the situation to him.He WILL know you have given it your best truely and honestly and he WILL pick you up and cary you untill he knows you can walk again.If you feel you need help walking at that time ask him to walk with you and he will.Brighter days are ahead ;-) !Your friend,Moniece

[Monty]

I was always told - trouble comes in 3's - so you have your's for now - ;-)

I have been chasing and nursing 3 - Sister had surgery on her hand,Daughter had infection and hubby was down with stomach flu several days ! :-?
Totally screwed up my routine and added expense I didn't plan on :roll:
But, that's life - Just have to go with the flow -
Right now waiting for daughter and SIL to bring over thier other two horses - so we will have 6 here for now - I don't think I will ever get another Paso at this rate :(
I REALLY need a vacation!

[Pasogirlz]

((((((hugs)))))))) I hope things are looking brighter soon. Until then...keep your chin up. ;-)

[Terry Wallace]

Oh...Pasofan...I feel for you...but here is a heads up on a fact of life.....
You are ALWAYS upside-down on vehicles...PERIOD.
By the time they are paid off..... its time for a new one. By the time they are paid off.... they have many problems and are practically worn out.
I'm sorry to be so blunt...but its "just the facts"....

Most of us have been "upside-down" on every vehicle we ever bought...truly.

If you have to use that vehicle every day, or even every week...you won't come out..."on Top"....

It may be better to trade it in than put money into it..it just "depends"...

I'm very sorry to hear that your grandparents were in the accident...and no one cared enough to even let you know... that SUCKS....period!

But..on the flip side of a seemingly dark hole.....just remember this....
you have taken on a great amount of responsibility, you have very high integrity...it won't be an easy thing to do and you are already finding this out.... rest assured that one day..this will all come back to you in a GOOD way.

As for those relatives that have "dis-owned" you and your sister....
"F" them.... please do not let it discourage you or get you down.... just know that anyone who would do such a thing...is very SMALL...very, very small.... keep your head up and go forth.... it WILL work out one way or another.

I admire your guts, determination, and stick-to-it-ness...... don't you dare let these bumps in the road depress you.... keep your faith and keep on keeping on...

I wish you hope and better fortune.... Life can be very hard..... the key to surviving it is to be CONFIDENT..... I'll be praying for you.... ;-)

[CarolU]

I don't know about that Terry. We bought a new 90 Camry in 91 for $12K. We now have 390,000 miles on it. So far we've replaced the catalytic converter (that was this month), the fuel pump once, the shocks and struts once, the timing chain and belts twice (only because the manual said to). We're on the 3rd battery and the second set of plugs.

That's pretty much like a free vehicle. It still gets 40 mpg in the summer and 38 in the winter with studded snows on the front.

Because we drive the Camry so much, both the van and the truck have under 90K miles and are 13 years old. They're free too.

[Cindy]

Yeah Terry, I disagree with that as well. Bought my 1995 Camaro used in 2000. Traded a Nissan truck and some cash for it. Still driving it. Had to get a new transmission and a couple $500 tune ups but other than that I have no problems with it. Oh and a new water pump. Beware anyone who has a Camaro as the idiots who designed the car put the water pump on top of the distributor so when your water pump begins to leak as they all eventually seem to do it leaks right onto your distributor. Luckily we caught it in time and did not have to replace the disrtibutor.

Bought my Dodge Dually new in 1996. Paid it off in 2000 and still driving it. Had to replace the transmission in it as well but that was because the idiots who tried and failed to service the transmission kinked the hose and when I put a load on it it overheated and fried. Not the trucks fault. Also had to do about $500 in a new something or other when I broke down on the way to Naitonals this year but that is far less than making payments every month. I am a firm believer in buying used and driving them till they die. The only vehicles that I do not buy used are trucks that I am pulling my trailer with as I don't want to inherit someone elses problems due to lack of keeping the vehicle maintanace up when I am pulling a load.

Also had a Suburu that I bought around 1986 for $4,000. It had a bit over 100,000 miles on it at the time. I drove it until 1993 when it had a total of 273,000 miles on it and sold it for $500. I think that is the best buy I ever made. :lol:

[PASOFAN]

Although I know to many people who buy are underwater on a car, if they dont put $$ down, some actually arent in a bad spot. I am a consumer loan officer and see alot of values and deals come across my desk.. I am just glad I found a good mechanic, finally.

I am gonna keep the truck it's value is still $12k w/it's hight mileage and it is pd for, I plan to drive it a long time, especially now since I put so much into it... There shouldnt be anything else going out for a LONG time, I take REALLY good care of the engine and other stuff too, it actually is 6yrs old and people still think it is a new truck it is so nice. I have put in a new drive shaft, tfr case in it, due to a mechanic error, not the trucks, so that is good that it is new.. That repair was 2yrs ago, sucked, but it didnt cost as much as this did...

I run Synthetic Moble 1 oil and prolong in it too, which I am a Firm believer in, just a great great product.

My dad owns a 1990 Lexus w/300k plus miles on it and you cant even hear it start!! Good car and he uses Synthetic oils too...

I think things will be ok... I have found a 0% credit card so that will help, plus getting a bonus in Jan, and now since I am a guardian I get a child Tax credit!! So I actually get $$ back in taxes!! lol

The only thing that has been really botherin me is I have been wanting to buy land, but this has pushed that back a while...